Love is often the central theme of many of our thoughts and conversations. It is described as essential for boosting the dopamine system in the body, triggering pleasure in the brain, and making everything seem beautiful. It’s comparable to the pleasure we get from food, desserts, or even pleasure pills.
Often, a relationship ends when the passion fades, infidelity is discovered, or both partners decide to end it together. The worst situation is when the relationship ends not by your choice, but due to circumstances that prevent you from being together, or when your partner suddenly leaves when everything seemed perfect. These breakups leave lasting emotional scars and are difficult to forget unless you both reunite.
According to anthropological studies, the brain experiences a sharp drop in dopamine, causing a flood of thoughts. We constantly ask ourselves questions like: “Why him/her?” or “Why did this happen to me?” This person may remain unforgettable for a lifetime if they aren’t let go at the right moment. Follow these tips to help you move on.
1. Focus on Yourself
If during the relationship you neglected things like spending time alone, hanging out with your best friends, or going out like you used to, start doing those things again.
Replace those quiet afternoons spent thinking alone at home with outdoor activities. Exercise is a great ally in such moments, helping release melatonin and removing bad energy.
2. Delete from Your Phone and Social Media
Don’t call them anymore, don’t check their Facebook, and avoid places they frequent. These are basic rules to follow if you want to forget someone who was once the center of your world.
If it’s too hard to cut them off completely, at least try to delete their contact information from your phone and unfollow them on social media. Otherwise, you’ll keep thinking about them and find it much harder to move on.
3. Try a New Look
Taking care of yourself is one of the best signs that you’re moving on. Don’t neglect yourself—spend time feeling good about your appearance with a new look or fresh clothes. After all, everyone knows that dressing well boosts your confidence.
4. Change Your Mindset
Forgetting someone who once occupied a large space in your heart, like in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, is tough, but at least you should try to remove negative thoughts. Surround yourself with people who truly care about you, as this helps release oxytocin, and spend quality time with them, sharing your thoughts and receiving their advice.
When your ex crosses your mind, don’t smile at the beautiful moments you shared. Instead, remind yourself of the things you couldn’t stand during the relationship.
5. Avoid Meeting Them Again
It’s common for ex-partners to meet up for “closure,” only for things to end up back in the bedroom. While this may sound like a good idea, experiencing it will show you that it’s not the right solution, and you will only suffer more from such contact—even if it’s a real reunion.
Such meetings may reignite the desire to reconnect, even though you both know that it’s impossible. Don’t expect to be friends with an ex, because that will never happen.
